Your family relationships
To be a Muse for my man is the dream of many women. The best part of this dream, to achieve that it is quite possible if you follow a few rules.
A man can be as creative and enthusiastic, but without a woman to keep it up for a long time he is not always obtained. No wonder we are called “homemakers”. In this case, the focus is synonymous with inspiration. How to maintain and increase?
To rely on themselves and take responsibility for, to feel loved. To love yourself! Continue reading
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The anger in marital relationships:
Anger, like coins, have two sides. Each of them can lead to winning and losing. You can learn to use anger as a positive force in the marital relationship.
Irrational (unreasonable) anger starts with condemning thoughts, categorical judgments about their spouses. For example, the thought "my husband is selfish" quickly causes a feeling of anger. Irrational anger disappears from positive thoughts. Continue reading
Love and purposeful woman can work wonders. And well being and warmth in family relationships is always work and the merit of women. That she should only often is a colossal effort.
If a man shuts, he probably feels too much attention and pressure to the person. Reduce your speed, adjust the heat and turn your attention on yourself.
Attempts to talk, to understand in relationships with men usually cause negativity and stress, try to change their behavior and man will change. Continue reading
Having lived some time together, you begin to wonder, at what level are your relationship, isn’t it time for something to change in them. This test will help you to sort out your doubts. The test consists of two parts: for wife and husband. For each question, select one of three answers: “Yes”, “rarely”, “no”.
Questions for husband
1. Whether you spend at least half of their free time with his wife?
2. Do you use every opportunity to praise his wife, to Express their admiration for her?
3. Abstain if you compare wife with your mother or wife, another for cooking, farming, if the comparison is not in favor of your wife?
4. Do you show interest in the intellectual life of the wife, the books she reads, her addictions? Continue reading
Married, every woman dreams of that once and for all. Actually, a happy marriage and family relations is the result of conscious creativity. Happiness for two entirely depends on the woman, it is important to know a few everyday intricacies of family relationships and to use them skillfully. Should not expect in this business for a man, you are the creators of our own happiness. Any woman can “grow” the man of her dreams. But if not be sure to choose the perfect partner, try to practice living together before marriage. Here and start giving recipes how to preserve family relationships in perfect harmony: To do this, keep it in all endeavors, not criticize for failure, because only a confident man becomes successful. Family relationships becomes stronger, the husband and wife should live alone interests. Common Hobbies, about the same dynamics of development of individuals is the basis of family relations. Try to spend more time together, but also allow yourself to enjoy each other. Let the man and not excessively covet it. Dear ladies, remember, marriage — family relationships will become stronger if you learn to understand each other. Continue reading
Family relations – crises In General, the problems of the newly-married young people’s problems than those couples who have lived together for many years. As parents of very young children are faced with some difficulties, and parents of teenagers – with other and different problems arise between husband and wife depending on how many years they married. These problems are called familial crises, and to successfully overcome them, spouses need to learn to interact in new ways, and, depending on the changing flow of life and circumstances, to develop new rules of communication. Some problems the family decides easily; others can cause the glowing relationship. For example, in one family having a baby can cause conflicts and aggravation, in another of these difficulties may not be. Typical life situations, often provoking a crisis in relations: The appearance of the child The reasons for the deterioration of relations at this stage: · the Reluctance of couples to all appeared difficulties. · Postpartum depression of the mother. · the Need to rebuild only the well-established family relationships in a new way. · The jealousy of one of the spouses to the appearance of the child, who now pays almost all the attention. · conflicts between other relatives. After the birth of a child, two families, usually lumped even more. In the young family often visited by guests. Families may not converge in opinion, what name to give the child, how to raise it, and what to teach. · Domestic difficulties. The newly-minted parents have to learn to solve many new problems. Continue reading
Of family psychology published a lot of literature and family psychologists are constantly working on the issue of harmony in the relations between men and women in the family are given an optimal solution in communication. We already understand that men and women in the pair can speak different love languages (Gary Chapman “the Five Languages of Love” ), psychologists have studied the causes of divorce, reasons for change, the objects of fear and the correct interpretation of jealousy.
The relationship of men and women in couples are studied by many psychologists specializing matters of family psychology.
John gray has devoted more than a dozen years deep study of communication problems between “Marianini and Venerance”, You are probably familiar with his international bestseller “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. “Men, women and relationships”. “Recipes happy relationship” Continue reading
When young people are thinking about the future together, and over time, the period of “romantic encounters” turns into family relationships . Upon marriage, each of the newlyweds draws mental pictures for yourself, which, he thinks, will accompany him during the subsequent years of harmonious family life. But the conflicts that accompany family relationships from the very first months of marriage, suggests that not everything is as simple and smooth as we would like. No wonder newlyweds at weddings older and more unworldly relatives I wish you patience. 202.JPG” /%
So why patience? The science of family psychology in recent years has gone far ahead and watching the many couples in the early formation of their relationship, came to the obvious conclusion.
It’s no secret that every argument to blame for both. In order to avoid the negative consequences of the first months of marriage, I advise at the stage before the wedding to reflect on yourself, on your desires and on the partner with whom you are planning to spend their future life.
The most common frustration that bring family relationships in the first months of marriage
It is revealing some of the negative qualities that are not evident in the partner in your brief moments of Dating. Some habits, stereotypes of behaviour in everyday life, some stable point of view on some things that you just couldn’t learn to living together, and Yes, even some personal intimate habits that you didn’t know. Such situations can be quite a lot. Here for spouses important is understanding and calm to refer to new “discoveries”, not drawing attention to them.
Time for family or for yourself?
It is difficult to overestimate the importance of your comfort zone, which should be in every man. Until the time marriage person manages their time freely, to no reporting back. But in the marriage have a little set aside their Hobbies and otherwise distribute personal time, literally taking away from his friends, and giving to your partner. This transition can be quite painful, because of mental adaptation of each individual. Don’t limit your partner only pastime with you: a little later, when your spouse is a little adaptable, he wants spending more and more time.
Are you ready for self family “swimming”?
Not less common situation is where a financial issue. Young people are used to living with the support or from her parents, now turned out to be “free swimming” and all of the decisions for the allocation of Finance fell on their shoulders. Well, if one or both spouses are sufficiently independent to overcome these moments, and if not? The lack of money in the family in most cases leads to a deep and protracted conflicts, which is sometimes very difficult to get out. And here begins a third, very important reason for conflicts – an appeal for help from the parents.
On one side the couple want to be independent, and they are unable or not yet ready psychologically to them (i.e., independent) to be. In this conflict it is important to put yourself in the place of her husband, to try to understand or even justify it.
Do not withdraw into yourself, and try all conflict, controversial and exciting questions to discuss calmly and in a timely manner, not “burying” them for their grievances and grudges. You may need a certain amount of courage or even the preparation for this conversation.
Try to be more tolerant of their half, taking the side of the partner, and not the parents .
Because at this stage a very strong love relationship isn’t ruined long-standing grievances, and therefore sometimes quite strong embrace and a passionate kiss to your family relationships “went to sea”, not stoores near the shore.
Not taking hasty decisions, even before marriage try to look closer to your partner, identifying in advance and gently smooth the issues that may affect you in future family life. If you have questions and doubts, anxiety or fears, family counseling psychologist and will help to avoid many errors and make your marriage is really strong and happy.
Seek professional advice, you will be able to get answers to the questions “How to distribute responsibilities in the house?”, “What “personal boundaries”, it is advisable to leave a partner, not absorbing it as a whole?”, “How to build the right relationship, dividing the roles of men and women in the family?” and many other exciting moments.
The same as any human communication. building a healthy family relationship is a process, and laborious and sometimes difficult, but the most important is continuous. If up to a certain stage in your relationship developed by themselves, without apparent effort of the partners, do not think that with the establishment of the family all continues in the same vein. Unfortunately, there are many sad examples of the effect of the passive way of building relationships. Moving in together, getting married, having kids – all major steps in the life of both partners, but behind them are millions of small steps, through which you can create and maintain for years of healthy family relationships.
There are basic rules of healthy families, exploring and applying that in practice, you will see significant changes for the better, will discover new facets of family relationships and realize that a family can turn into an amazing journey of a lifetime. Let us rather look at them!
1: family relations should be distance Continue reading